damn its over.. - Page 2

svxistentialist · #16 09-08-2008, 04:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Wikedjuggalo

Well recently someone I loved with all heart left me for someone else. I devoted all my love and felt something great. She kissed another guy and felt something. It was someone she went out with 4 years ago but they didnt feel anything. We were only together for a year and a half but it was a great year and a half.

She told me monday she kissed him sunday, she wanted a break to take a step back. I gave her space and left her alone. I didnt call and plead and beg or anything. She called me Friday and told me she wanted to date him, she just felt it wouldnt be fair to her or me if she didnt. She crushed me, for those 4 days I couldnt function, I couldnt eat, I couldnt sleep. The worst feeling in the world was waiting for those 4 days. I never felt something like that before. I told her when she said it was over that I loved her and hope she never fells the pain I felt when she did what she did to me. I wish that on no one. The guy is a no body doing nothing so its her loss. I have to look on the upside of life and know there is a reason for this. I feel in time I can get over this, I have started to eat and talking with friends more, but the pain is there. Last night was the only night in the past week almost I didnt wake up 10 times. I deleted all ways of contacting her, but

Damn its over...
Anyone else had someone leave them for another?

Sorry to hear about this Wicked.

What you are getting here is pretty sound advice. Deal with the pain and move on.

Depending on the level of love and commitment all break-ups are going to hurt. You just have to deal with that.

From experience I find that it is a lot easier to recover if you are the dumper rather than the dumpee. I've been both, and if you are the dumpee then your ego takes a hit as well as your heart. C'est la vie.

You are taking it admirably and like a man. You are also being correctly magnanimous about your ex's moving on. If you think about it, no matter how much you may have loved her in your good time together, if she was unable to give you the same commitment in return then it would not work out. So she did the right thing for you both in moving on.

Keep your pecker up. There are plenty of girls out there who would love to meet up with a genuine guy like you.

Joe

Wikedjuggalo · #17 09-08-2008, 06:31 AM

Thanks all for your comments, its hard. But I am trying to keep my head up. I find the hardest times so far are when I try to sleep, my head races with thoughts and also when I get up. Specially if I have a dream which I had 2 last night. I can't just toss everything out my head as I want to, I want to just erase the past year and half out my head so I don't feel the pain, but I can't. I was thinking about getting a 2nd job doing something to keep me busy after school. But I will have to see if I can do that and go to school. This is really hard.

ensteele · #18 09-08-2008, 09:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Wikedjuggalo

Thanks all for your comments, its hard. But I am trying to keep my head up. I find the hardest times so far are when I try to sleep, my head races with thoughts and also when I get up. Specially if I have a dream which I had 2 last night. I can't just toss everything out my head as I want to, I want to just erase the past year and half out my head so I don't feel the pain, but I can't. I was thinking about getting a 2nd job doing something to keep me busy after school. But I will have to see if I can do that and go to school. This is really hard.

I had many tell me that time heals. Yes, it does, but what about now! It is not easy, and trying to stay busy is one of the ways to deal with it. It will get easier in time, but it takes time. I found out who my friends were when things were down, and I spent time with them. That helped me out most. If you are a person of faith, this will make it stronger or weaker. I hope it will make it stronger, because there must be a reason for this. Good luck and we are here for you as you move on with your life.

Noir · #19 09-08-2008, 09:32 AM

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She told me monday she kissed him sunday, she wanted a break to take a step back. I gave her space and left her alone. I didnt call and plead and beg or anything.

Well played sir. I would have drove the rag wagon to your house if you did plead, beg, or whined.

I know it's rough, but look on the bright side. You know that she was not as committed to the relationship as you believed sooner than later. You had some good times and now know more of what to look for in the future. It's an experience and I'm sure that you learned from it.

I really don't know what to say about what happened to Earl. That's just foul. I know that people may grow apart and what not over the years...but to come back and try to destroy the other party....is just wrong.

shelfy · #20 09-08-2008, 09:46 AM

how does a parking space lie?

Noir · #21 09-08-2008, 10:09 AM

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how does a parking space lie?

guess it depends on the engineer and painter. could be straight, could be slanted. some are wide while others are narrow. some take money and some are free. some are worn from heavy use and some are pristine.

shelfy · #22 09-08-2008, 10:15 AM

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guess it depends on the engineer and painter. could be straight, could be slanted. some are wide while others are narrow. some take money and some are free. some are worn from heavy use and some are pristine.

are you sure you want to go there?

iizbeastie · #23 09-08-2008, 04:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Wikedjuggalo

..... I want to just erase the past year and half out my head so I don't feel the pain, but I can't.

whatever you do, don't completely forget it. By that I mean don't let her come back into your life with that whole "lets forget yesterday and see what happens tomorrow" speech. Always remember how easy it was for her to do this to you. Honestly, don't wait for her to come back, or for that matter let her come back, you will only be setting yourself up for another heartache. I'm not saying it isn't possible for some.... but it is very very rare that a 'second chance' works out. Personally, I know that every time I broke up, I was sure to make it a final decision and I've seen too many good people (male and female) hurt over and over again because the other one who they thought they loved couldn't make up their mind.

Wikedjuggalo · #24 09-08-2008, 05:26 PM

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Originally Posted by ensteele

I had many tell me that time heals. Yes, it does, but what about now! It is not easy, and trying to stay busy is one of the ways to deal with it. It will get easier in time, but it takes time. I found out who my friends were when things were down, and I spent time with them. That helped me out most. If you are a person of faith, this will make it stronger or weaker. I hope it will make it stronger, because there must be a reason for this. Good luck and we are here for you as you move on with your life.

I do find myself one of faith, although I might not shout it for the world as I know that the one that counts knows. I tell myself everything has its reasons.

demonsvx · #25 09-08-2008, 09:32 PM

Well my x is threatening to burn the "house we built together" down with me in it because she isnt getting her equity fast enough. $500 mth on a balance of 7k isnt all that long to me but in someone elses eyes it should be instant results. We will see when she gets busted for driving around without insurance and some wacky weed, guess who will be laughing their a$$ of for being the one in our marriage who did nothing

"Can you bail me out of jail pleassssee, I will do anything" WHATEVER. Focus on your needs, what makes you happy and NEVER FORGET why it happened. Live and Learn, move on to better things and realize that your feelings are just as important as theirs, this is where my marriage failed because my feelings were on the back burner to all her issues. Good luck

demonsvx · #26 09-08-2008, 09:43 PM

And she got the SVX which she let someone "else" drive now it has a rod knocking

guess I must change my signature. Ex SVX trashed my mystery man throws rod. Thing is she is still driving around with it knocking like hell

iizbeastie · #27 09-09-2008, 04:49 AM

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Well my x is threatening to burn the "house we built together" down with me in it because she isnt getting her equity fast enough. $500 mth on a balance of 7k isnt all that long to me but in someone elses eyes it should be instant results.

I've known a couple of those.... I want it but I'm not getting it so I'll destroy it.... oh, ... but then it will be destroyed and.... there won't be anything left to have.... oh.. um....

Sounds to me like anything more would have been court ordered but I'm guessing that still isn't good enough.......