damn its over..

[Wikedjuggalo]

untiss untiss..........

[iizbeastie]

Actually yeah. It was a bout 9 years ago now, but for me..... the other guy was my best friend of 5 years. We were the friends that had everything in common.... we looked like brothers, we acted pretty much the same, even have the same first name... The part I could never figure out is that I was always a little more successful and treated my ladies better... I saw the signs before either of them would admit it. In my case after all the frustration and obvious thoughts.... and after they got a little too friendly with each other (she didn't have the courtesy to say anything to me or break up), I ended up breaking up with her.... and I have to say I was cruel... but it was honestly for her best interest.... I didn't want to give her something to look back at..... it killed me to do it, but I knew we all needed it.

they moved out of state and got married..... it lasted almost four years, then I saw their divorce on the local circuit court access.... they had moved back into state and hit a speed bump..... he came home (their ehem' mobile home) from work (big cheese shift manager at Culvers!) one day and she was gone.... when he tried to call her to see where she and all her stuff was, she was in Arkansas, apparently she had already set everything up for someone to come get her moments after he left for work.

So now, I can laugh when their names come up.... even though for one reason or another I miss them both

[SilverSpear]

How old are you Wiked? I bet you are in your early 20's. Now I am 29 years old, what I did in my life with women no guy has done or experienced. My advice to you is one thing:
Now you are in the best years of your life. With all due respect for the ladies of this board, I feel I need to share my experience and the outcome of it, I tell you this (I am dead serious about it) Do not date sensitive and nice women, rather live the life of a womanizer.

You may feel shocked now, but this is my point of view: You see what happened to you now because of "Love". Don't let this ruin you again and again until you reach marriage one day, because and believe when I say this, you will realize that your heart became stone cold until then and you will feel obligated to get married or else you become "just another old guy".

Each break-up leaves a scar on your heart. The more you keep that heart smooth the more you will feel and live Love later on. Otherwise, marriage will be like any other relationship you've ever been into and you will always feel like you are on the edge of "Divorce".

Just live your life, date women for pleasure so that when the time comes and you meet the right girl, you will have 25+ years of love to give just for that right girl...

U're on your own now...

[SVXyGirl]

Originally Posted by SilverSpear

Just live your life, date women for pleasure so that when the time comes and you meet the right girl, you will have 25+ years of love to give just for that right girl...

U're on your own now...

I actually agree with this...and I'm a girl. I'm 22 and I'm not anywhere near concerned about finding the "right one". Enjoy your twenties. Live life to it's fullest. If you find the "right one" along the way. Good for you!

[iizbeastie]

I have to agree with both of these..... most importantly, I am married now and I have to say the 'right one' is NEVER there when you're looking for them. We all take it for granted when we hear someone say "the one you ended up with", and it really means just that.... you ended up stumbling across them in life and it fell together perfectly. So to sum up in three words .... don't search, play. It's far better to long for love that you don't have, than it is to be consumed by love you thought you had. ..... ... and probably didn't to be honest....

[plantchick]

I also agree with the others - live your life to the full and don't be in too much of a hurry to settle down. But I'd add two caveats;

1. For some people settling down while they're young is the right thing for them. Only you know whether its true for you or not - give yourself the space to find out.

2. You can date 'casually' without being a jerk and hurting others. All it takes is honesty.

She told me..... she wanted a break to take a step back. I gave her space and left her alone. I didnt call and plead and beg or anything.

To manage that takes guts, self control and integrity. Good on you for that, may you never lose them.

All the best,

Tania.

[Wikedjuggalo]

Originally Posted by plantchick

I also agree with the others - live your life to the full and don't be in too much of a hurry to settle down. But I'd add two caveats;

1. For some people settling down while they're young is the right thing for them. Only you know whether its true for you or not - give yourself the space to find out.

2. You can date 'casually' without being a jerk and hurting others. All it takes is honesty.




To manage that takes guts, self control and integrity. Good on you for that, may you never lose them.

All the best,

Tania.

It was about the hardest thing to do in my life. To do the opposite of what my heart told me to do. But the right one is out there, and I had to vent. Trust me when she told me it was over, I felt like screaming and yelling, but I didn't I simple told her how I loved her and how I hope everything works out for her. Also that she doesn't feel the pain she left me with ever in her life. I wish that on no one. It will do nothing but hurt me more to try and be vindictive.

[demonsvx]

Feel your pain also. Wife of 9 yrs wanted divorce 2 days after my birthday. She told me "we would be together forever". Whatever. My focus is on our 2 kids now and making it as easy for them as possible. Disconnect from her and move on, enjoy what life you have left and realize there are 6+ billion people in the world....your match is out there somewhere even if it isnt right away. Being single aint that bad, you have the bed to yourself, you dont have to explain where your money goes, you can look at whoever interests you and the list goes on. Trust me I was a prisoner for 9 yrs always being asked why I got home 2 min later than yesterday and found out she was messin around with someone else I thought about cheating but never did, knew I could be better than that. Now counting down the days till divorce is final 70 days to go yay

[ensteele]

I thought I had found the love of my life and was married for 8 years. We had a son together and she took off with a good friend of mine. Well, I thought he was a friend. And she returned to take the shirt off of my back. That has been over 9 years ago and I still don't know if I will ever be able to trust anyone else. I know what you are going through, but imagine if you had been married for 8 to 10 years, or longer and she split. I would not wish that on anyone. I am sorry that you are going through that. I hope the best for you in the future.

[Mensaf]

This is retarded. I feel for you Wiked, but I think the advice everyone is giving you is off. For the most part, I think it all depends on what a relationship is based on. Love alone will not do. A simple set of beliefs, a few hobbies, financial stability, etc. are all important things to considor as well. Everyone in this country is in love with the idea of falling in love, and that's what leads to a 52% divorce rate.

[Mensaf]

Originally Posted by iizbeastie

Actually yeah. It was a bout 9 years ago now, but for me..... the other guy was my best friend of 5 years. We were the friends that had everything in common.... we looked like brothers, we acted pretty much the same, even have the same first name... The part I could never figure out is that I was always a little more successful and treated my ladies better... I saw the signs before either of them would admit it. In my case after all the frustration and obvious thoughts.... and after they got a little too friendly with each other (she didn't have the courtesy to say anything to me or break up), I ended up breaking up with her.... and I have to say I was cruel... but it was honestly for her best interest.... I didn't want to give her something to look back at..... it killed me to do it, but I knew we all needed it.

they moved out of state and got married..... it lasted almost four years, then I saw their divorce on the local circuit court access.... they had moved back into state and hit a speed bump..... he came home (their ehem' mobile home) from work (big cheese shift manager at Culvers!) one day and she was gone.... when he tried to call her to see where she and all her stuff was, she was in Arkansas, apparently she had already set everything up for someone to come get her moments after he left for work.

So now, I can laugh when their names come up.... even though for one reason or another I miss them both

Originally Posted by ensteele

I thought I had found the love of my life and was married for 8 years. We had a son together and she took off with a good friend of mine. Well, I thought he was a friend. And she returned to take the shirt off of my back. That has been over 9 years ago and I still don't know if I will ever be able to trust anyone else. I know what you are going through, but imagine if you had been married for 8 to 10 years, or longer and she split. I would not wish that on anyone. I am sorry that you are going through that. I hope the best for you in the future.

These two make me the most upset. I hope the best for both of you, and the worst for those that hurt you.

[Landshark]

women are like parking spaces .... w-h-o-r-e-s and liars.








is "w-h-o-r-e-s" really censored out on this site? jesus.

[plantchick]

Originally Posted by Wikedjuggalo

It was about the hardest thing to do in my life. To do the opposite of what my heart told me to do. But the right one is out there, and I had to vent. Trust me when she told me it was over, I felt like screaming and yelling, but I didn't I simple told her how I loved her and how I hope everything works out for her. Also that she doesn't feel the pain she left me with ever in her life. I wish that on no one. It will do nothing but hurt me more to try and be vindictive.

It had to have been hard - its why I wanted to say I respected it.

Its easy to say we have a belief or principle, much harder to live it when crunch time comes. So to me your last sentence says it all - even though you were hurting, you managed to act with integrity, self respect and dignity. I think that's something to feel good about yourself for.

Take care.

[plantchick]

Originally Posted by Landshark

women are like parking spaces .... w-h-o-r-e-s and liars.








is "w-h-o-r-e-s" really censored out on this site? jesus.

I'm glad I'm not so jaded that I think all men are jerks.

But if it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck....

[SilverSpear]

lol plantchick, you are right

Actually I see women more sensitive than guys... so we are really Jerks