[Tim]

My ex-gf believed in being spontaneous. In actuality, it was stupidity just with a better word usage.

The more I helped her out of bad situtations and less I was her boyfriend, and the more I was like her father. This led up to her not appreciating anything I did, that she can abuse the fact that I was there and take advantage of things.

This led up to the eventual damage to my car. A few months later we broke up, leaving me with a broken car and a broken spirit.

I've learned my lesson now. Signs like her bailing out to go to Chicago and needing help coming back strike a red flag for me. It doesn't make sense to just pick up and leave if she really loves you. Not trying to be mean, but it would have been very distressful to leave like that knowing it would upset you.