I've been getting pretty familiar with detailing these past few years and I even held a detailing position over this past summer. Rotary is quick and fairly easy, but I use a portercable on most of the cars I have done. Takes longer, but gives me a better feeling that I didn't miss anything or rush through it.
Anyways, I get my products 50/50 from...
http://www.detailersdomain.com/ (out of NJ, vendor on nasioc, really nice guys, do fantastic work) I buy my polishes/pads/sealant/MF towels from here. Promotional code NASIOC at checkout gets you 10-15% off entire purchase! Can't remember if it's 10 or 15...
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http://www.autogeek.net/ (You'll find the 303, Collinite, P21S on here)
Collinite is definitely my favorite wax I have ever used. 303 is great for any black plastic trim, dashboards, and tire sidewalls. NOTHING becomes extremely shiny and best of all, no silicone release agents that will dry out the material or make it feel greasy.
The P21s Paintwork Cleanser is an oxidation remover/minor swirl filler all-in-one. Keeps the paint in great shape, disguises minor imperfections, and with proper washing techniques, you might only need to polish a daily driver car once every few years. Any paint cleanser is a great investment. Saves wearing down your clearcoat with excessive polishing.
Lastly, I have never touched the headlights. With anything. It's just what 13 years kept in a garage with minimal use will do in returning the favor.
I have a bunch of detailing tips and tricks, so anyone feel free to PM me with any specific questions.