I've always thought you didn't wash your car with dish detergent because it stripped off the wax. But since that is your goal, it might be worth a try...
I'm sure that you could get some info about wax strippers from your local body shop as well.
Oh, and your language may be considered offensive but some. I talk that way myself, but I try to tone it down a little here on this site. You'll probably get a better response to your questions if you keep it PG...
