[ricktheseabee]

ok, it was the timing belt, here is what i have learned: if you get a code 13 and its not a sensor, remove the timingbelt cover near the battery and check its tension.

I was only the two top nuts that i had to remove to check.

i had it towed to my drive and now im going to start removing everything between the front bumper and timing belt.

I ordered a new timingbelt from napa, its total was surprisingly under a hundred $.

when i remove the old belt i am going to check for play in the gears.
will post what else i find if anything, thats including problems i run into and what i should have done to prevent it.